Feb. 16, 2022

EP103- Sex Postpartum: Painful Sex is Not Normal! with Cindy Scharkey

EP103- Sex Postpartum: Painful Sex is Not Normal! with Cindy Scharkey

Just because we are given that clearance from our doctor at the 6-week mark, does not mean that we should jump right into sexual activity and we might not even emotionally feel ready. In this episode with Cindy Scharkey, we are honing in on sex in postpartum. The fourth trimester is truly that, a FOURTH trimester and should be treated as such. Cindy discusses how that really is a societal change that we all need to make because it's sending the wrong message to new mothers. As an RN, who's been a healthcare professional for over 35 years. And the host of the podcast, Permission for Pleasure. She tells us the reality of what to expect both physically and emotionally during postpartum.

Hear some amazing tips to start easing into intimacy when you're ready and what to do if things don't quite seem right on this episode of the Mamas in Training Podcast!


*This episode has two parts, so make sure to go back to last week’s episode to gain more insight from Cindy. 


What does it mean to be touched out?

Especially in postpartum, our bodies can feel like baby machines. They have just been put through a major trauma and now they are being used to feed, soothe and nurture a human. It is very challenging to expect our bodies and our minds to then flip a switch and become sexual beings. Cindy shares with us the importance of “changing hats.” It is important that we take off our mother hat and give ourselves time to not be touched, so then we can put on the hat of wife/partner who wants to be desired and is desirable. Sometimes, Cindy adds that this can be a literal piece of clothing, prop or even food that we consume to help that shift in our bodies. Other times it can be an act, such as taking a bath, working out or going for a walk. Whatever it becomes for you, this is such an important element to navigating sex in that stage of postpartum. 



Cindy Scharkey, RN, BSN, is a healthcare professional with over 35 years of experience. Throughout her career as a Certified Childbirth Educator, OB/GYN nurse and speaker, she has been consistently exposed to the taboos and silence surrounding women’s sexuality.

Cindy is passionate about opening the doors for women to have conversations about expressing, experiencing and enjoying their sexuality. She also has the desire to give parents the right information to feel confident in guiding their children through conversations about puberty and sex. 

She is married to her high school sweetheart, the love of her life, and has three adult daughters whom she adores.


(Reminder, Cindy is not giving medical advise and recommends that you seek guidance and professional medical advice from your doctor so they can address your specific needs.)



Cindy’s Website: https://www.cindyscharkey.com/

Cindy’s Podcast, Permission for Pleasure: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/permission-for-pleasure/id1555169719

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